Why You Shouldn't Be Scared to Marry Someone Who's Bisexual

Why You Shouldn't Be Scared to Marry Someone Who's Bisexual

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People get a lot wrong about bisexuality and make many a boneheaded assumption about people's sexual preferences. They mistakenly think it's all experimentation or a phase. Friends, coworkers, or random strangers at bars may tell you bisexualilty doesn't exist and that you'll always wind up on one side or the other. And a person dating a bisexual man or woman can often get insecure about their partner's dual sexual attraction.

These assumptions may be completely incorrect, but they are in the foreground just the same-these are the daily realities a bisexual person faces. Perhaps we should stop judging someone so freely for their sexual preference and actually recognize that a bisexual person is a human being, bisexuality is not a phase, and saying things like this is shortsighted, hurtful, and utterly ridiculous.

The most common myth surrounding bisexuals and marriage? The thought that a person who is attracted to both sexes can't be monogamous. A bisexual person is just as capable of monogamy as a heterosexual person.

In fact, I'd argue that bisexual people make amazing husbands and wives, and you shouldn't be afraid to marry your bisexual partner. Here's why.

You Have Better Communication

I get it: Being with someone bisexual can be a little nerve-racking. You can't help but ask yourself, “Am I going to get dumped for someone of the opposite sex?” And you're not alone in feeling this way. Since this is a real insecurity, and as you move closer to marriage with a bisexual person, you'll have to up the ante in your communication skills. Marrying someone (no matter who) means laying it all out on the table: every doubt, every worry, every discomfort.

As a long-term couple who, from the outset, has had to resolve potential relationship problems due to insecurity and jealousy, you're ready for whatever hits you in the years to come. Bisexual people are used to having these discussions, and you can bet your partner is ready for it.

Checking Someone Out Can Actually Make You Closer

Obviously lines can be crossed and playing the “Is (s)he hot?” game can get awkward, but if you can't have a little fun with your partner, why are you getting married in the first place? You have a shared appreciation for the same sex. Why not enjoy that shared interest?

If you both enjoy rock climbing, you can climb together. If you both enjoy sushi, you can eat sushi together. Who's to say you can't enjoy admiring hot guys or girls together over nachos on the boardwalk?

Your Partner Is Wiser to Human Nature

We learn the most through experience. A bisexual person is automatically more experienced just by living his or her life and exploring his or her sexuality in a way that is outside of the norm. The bisexual spouse has a better understanding of the human condition.

He or she may have seen a lot in life and has possibly been with a wider range of people. Being intimate with both men and women inherently opens you up to a greater understanding of the complexities of both genders.

Not to mention, the discrimination you face as a bisexual individual throughout your life thickens your skin considerably.

Threesomes With Real, Honest Enthusiasm

Let's start with something relatively obvious, but critically important: Just because your partner is bisexual does not mean he or she wants to have threesomes. You may be attracted to both sexes and not want to have sex with two people at the same time-these two things don't automatically go hand in hand.

That said, if you have communicated that you both want to try a threesome, bisexuality does offer benefits. If you're in a relationship and both partners are heterosexual, any threesome action is aimed to benefit only one of you. Whether you bring in another guy or another girl, it's the partner attracted to the sex involved who is going to get more from the threesome experience.

Therefore, threesomes can be enhanced with bisexual people involved. There is less threat of discomfort or jealousy if all parties are attracted to each other and genuinely engaged in the act at hand.

While being with a bisexual person doesn't automatically clear up any and all relationship woes, it definitely has plentiful upsides. If you marry the bisexual person of your dreams, it will be the best decision you ever make.

Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in NYC. Her work has appeared in Elle, Teen Vogue, Glamour, Allure, Marie Claire, and Bustle.


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