A relationship, especially a long-term relationship, can be a tricky balance. You spend time together, you build a life together, but you still need to maintain your individual existences. It's not unusual to have a moment when you realize that you need to take a step back - and in some cases, you need to take a whole leap back.
I'll never forget what my new ob-gyn said to me the first time I met him. I was about three months pregnant in a new city. He seemed friendly enough when he walked into the exam room and introduced himself to me and my boyfriend. As he settled himself onto his stool and rolled closer to where I sat awkwardly on a paper-covered exam bed, he mentioned that he was surprised to find out this was my first kid.
Being friends with an ex is always a tricky business. If someone was a big part of your life, it's natural you would want to keep a connection with them-but there might be unresolved or confusing feelings. And once you're in a new relationship, things get even more complicated. But can you still be friends with an ex once you're married, or does marriage draw a line in the sand?
Last September, we poked a little fun at all the BCB (basic couple behavior) that seems to run rampant this time of year. But as the fall season approaches, we've decided that if you can't beat 'em, throw on a flannel shirt and join 'em. Thus, we proudly present 15 fall date ideas that are basic AF. Go ahead and pick your apples, bake them into a pie, and Instagram the heck out of it!
When we think of betrayal in a relationship, it's normally in a bold, almost cinematic situation-an affair, a one night stand in the heat of a fight, maybe even walking out in the middle of the night. But the truth is, many betrayals are far more subtle-and they're usually anything but glamorous. Sure, there's the betrayal when you run into the arms of someone else, but there's also the more pedestrian, day-to-day betrayal that happens when you move away from your relationship and your partner emotionally over time.
Let's face it: Valentine's Day is a dumpster fire. Good luck trying to get dinner reservations before 9 p.m. unless you booked three months in advance or want to sit near the bathroom. Instead of going out this February 14, make this V-Day a stay-in occasion. Skip the fancy (and usually uncomfortable) outfit and opt for some fancy lingerie instead-or better yet, nothing at all.
There is nothing worse than being really into someone, only to have them do something so off-putting and gnarly that you cannot bring yourself to have sex with them (or have sex with them again , in many cases). Not everything is a deal-breaker. Perhaps a lover does something kind of gross, but you can move on from it.
ВЂњAt the end of our date, he asked whether we could get married that December,вЂќ a young woman anonymously told CNN. вЂњGet married? I wasn't even sure I wanted to have dessert with him.вЂќ A first date and a marriage proposal-for some women, this is the face of a modern arranged marriage. And though arranged marriages may seem like a relic of a bygone age, they are still surprisingly popular around the world.
In search of a new form of birth control, but aren't sure what's right for you? Allow us to introduce you to the IUD (Intrauterine Device). The IUD is a T-shaped device made of plastic (and sometimes copper) about three inches long and very thin-with two small strings that hang from the bottom. This birth control method is over 99 percent effective in preventing pregnancy.
Setting aside the quickie, good sex often requires a little preparation and planning-even honeymoon sex. "If we are planning to have sex on our honeymoon, then we should plan for that sex," says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., sexologist and author of The Truth About Sex: A Sex Primer For The 21st Century . "And because it is honeymoon sex-one of the most memorable and erotic experiences we'll ever have-a wise bride gives it the same careful, private consideration as she did the other details of the event.
Shortly after your stroll down the aisle, reality sets in. As a married couple, you'll inevitably be cohabitating, coexisting, and co-spending/saving. Newlywed finances can be a bit tricky and overwhelming at times, so we sought expert tips from CFP Mary Nosuchinsky of Stash Wealth. Check out her best advice to help pave the way for smooth financial sailing for newly married couples.
Whether you're fast approaching your trip down the aisle or are newlyweds and loving it, living arrangements have undoubtedly already been discussed. Happily renting? Living with family? Trying to decide your next steps? If you find yourself wondering, вЂњIs homeownership right for us, right now?вЂќ we have the answers!
One of the most surprising moments in a long term relationship is when you realize that you haven't just made memories with someone, started living with someone, and shared experiences with someone, but realizing how much you've rubbed off on each other. Relationships, especially those that are long term, end up shaping us in unexpected ways-for better and for worse.
The moment he slips that rock on your finger, the congratulations pour in. A blizzard of details hits, plus advice from nearly everyone you've ever met. Let the chaos of wedding planning begin! Behind closed doors, though, some couples experience other changes. Often, their sex lives become surprisingly hot-and not just for a few short days after the proposal.
As the week begins, the energy will have us feeling sensitive and quick to judge as the Sun squares Pluto.В Ego can quickly get in the way of resolving a disagreement that may bring up a deeper issue-one that needs to be resolved for good and Saturday when Mercury sextiles Pluto would be the perfect day to have that deep conversation.
Be warned: Some of these sister-in-law horror stories could shake you to your very core. And be glad: Your own sister-in-law's shenanigans will look almost angelic by comparison. "My Sister-in-Law Stole Our China" Lynn's sister-in-law made quick work of attending the couple's wedding. "She flew in for our wedding, and flew out the very next day," Lynn recalls.
Ask your mom (or your mom's mom) how to make your marriage happier and you're likely to hear that old preschool adage: You get what you get and you don't get upset. But, according to Northwestern University professor Eli J. Finkel, today's brides and grooms are setting a new paradigm for marriage-that is, they're tying the knot because it makes them a better person and, hopefully, makes the person they're telling вЂњI doвЂќ a better version of themselves as well.
The holidays are a time to celebrate and have fun with family and loved ones. Traditions come to life and good times are to be had by all. But what happens when two families are forced to become one during the holidays? A milestone in any romantic relationship is your first holiday together and making new memories to share in the years to come.
It's no secret that relationships are hard work, but did you know this includes your sex life, too? We tend to forget about sex when we're working through relationship hurdles. Sex takes a backseat to more "pressing" issues like emotions and intimacy. Now, while these hills and valleys are in need of attention, sex does as well.
Ask four people for what you need before you tie the knot, and you're likely to get four different answers. Here, what four experts think is the most important thing you must have before you get married-and we happen to think they're all equally important. The Ability to Fight Fair "Stop and think about the last disagreement or the most recent argument you had with your partner," says Terri Orbuch, Ph.
We've all wondered about the secret to making a marriage last. While divorce rates have been declining since the '80s, there's still about a 39 percent chance that your happily-ever-after will end. Of course, there's no easy answer to the question of how to build a successful marriage. While we all approach our relationships differently, it takes a lot of work to stick with someone who sometimes makes you angry.